Earlier in the summer, I woke up with glee because I thought I had moved on from my previous relationship. It was my first time waking up and going to bed without thinking about my ex. I was focused on my books, my plans for my blogs, and my dreams of future goals. It was an exhilarating moment. What I didn’t know is that there are levels to moving on: First, there’s the stage that I was excited to be in earlier this summer.We can call that the beginning to move on. You’re feeling good, thinking about other things, entertaining the idea of casual dating.Then there’s the “Hm, maybe we can ...
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Your Weekly Dose of Gratitude
It’s that time again. Sunday! Let’s get started making next week the best week ever. I’m thinking of fireworks, rainbows, and a parade of happy dogs! Maybe my expectations are set a bit high, but the heart wants what it wants. My favorite part of this week… had to be having a dance party all by myself in my bedroom on Friday night. Being unable to go out dancing has finally gotten on my nerves. Dancing is not something I do well, but dammit if it isn’t entertaining for me and everyone around me. It was nice to just wiggle everything out. I’ve been working really hard on some upcoming things ...
Healing Journey – Part 1
Hi, it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I took a break to gather myself. My tears have dried. After a couple of mopey days, I got up, washed my face, and in true Iris-fashion whipped out a notebook and pen. I got to work writing down how I felt and listing the choices I wanted to make. The best choice I’ve made so far? Sobriety. Instead of numbing, isolating, and avoiding, I chose to go on this journey sober. I’m stronger because of it. I believe that wholeheartedly. That speaks to how far I’ve come as a person. Not even a year ago, I would have drowned my sorrows and pain with ...
Grow Where You Are Planted
It’s hard to describe the pain of a broken engagement. It’s harder than losing a boyfriend or girlfriend. When you get engaged to someone, you have thought critically and at length about sharing your life with another person. You become less worried about the future because you understand that your partner will be there. Questions about life start having answers. You understand that your relationship will not always be roses, but your partner is worth the thorns. Anxieties quiet, and fears dissipate. Everything about life does not make sense still, but your partner gives you clarity. I was ...
Navigating Friendship with Women
Every now and then a girl comes along as says the dreaded phrase: “I don’t hang out with girls, they’re too much drama.” People scream bloody murder. The streets run red with blood. Baby angels cry. The reactions to such a simple sentence is never small. Some girls nod emphatically. Others smile politely but make a mental note to never hang out again. Like any other millennial, I consulted Google about it. The results were not good for “girls without girl friends”. A vast majority of them said to steer clear of those girls because they are the drama. There’s a reason no one is friends with ...
