Hello and happy Sunday! We are so close to Halloween, I can taste the candy and feel the spookiness, even here in sunshiny Florida! It’s been a great week, so why don’t I get started on what I’m grateful for? Gratitude for this week Something funny that happened this week was seeing a snake during my daily power walk. I’ve given running a break because I hurt my foot somehow, but I ran like the wind when I saw another tiny black creepy crawly on the sidewalk. Judging by the ache in my quads and the yelps I made, I set a new record for the 50-meter dash. Usain Bolt has competition now. ...
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It’s been a year since my trauma
I wrote an open letter to my trauma anniversaries. I’ve done a lot of growing and inner work in the last year. Thankfully, I am a better and stronger person now. To my trauma anniversaries, Each month of every year, I am paralyzed by you. The anniversaries have stacked up quite a bit over the last thirty years. Every few weeks, a new anniversary creeps from its hiding place in my mind, down my central nervous system, and has life breathed into it again. Many times, I don’t know what it is that has me anxious, angry, and depressed until I look at a calendar. When I put two and two ...
My Step-by-Step Guide to Letting Go
One of the most difficult parts of dealing with a broken heart is letting go. When we start dating someone, we attach to them with our minds, bodies, and souls. Together, a couple creates memories, inside jokes, and make promises to each other. They build a little shelter-world together that protects from the outside world. Sharing space together and living together makes the bond and attachment even stronger with each passing day. But disagreements, conflict, and betrayal cause breakups. Sometimes it’s nothing but paths heading separate directions that causes a split. When a couple goes ...
What Love Looks Like to Me Now
I used to think I knew what love looked like. My idea of love was a mixture of rom-coms, romance novels, country and old-school R&B songs, and some really toxic ideas. I thought that love meant that I was supposed to give every part of myself to my significant other. Love was supposed to be a perfect all-consuming emotion. I was supposed to accept everything that my partner did or didn’t do. I was not supposed to complain or ask for respect and have boundaries. I was supposed to make excuses for them if they got violent. I was supposed to build up the man I was with and do everything ...
The Most Important Relationship
Which relationship is the most important relationship in your life? If you answered with your significant other or parents and siblings or best friend... not quite. Yes, those are all important relationships, but who is most important? You! I've struggled with that concept for years. Learning about codependency and the fact that I've been plagued with it my entire life was more than eye-opening. Understanding that I have issues with codependency unlocked an opportunity to make some major changes. What is codependency? It's marked by: low self-esteempeople-pleasingpoor ...
