Last year, I was considerably hurt, confused, and depressed when my ex-fiancé decided to dump me without warning. I couldn’t figure out what went wrong. In my eyes, our relationship was great. I was doing everything I could do have a solid and healthy relationship, but life did what it normally does. It threw a curve ball and had me on a plane 4 days later to Orlando, leaving the house I made into a home, most of my clothes and shoes, books, and everything important to me. I couldn’t understand it. If I had done nothing wrong, why was I ushered out of a happy life that I had worked so hard ...
forgiveness
It’s been a year since my trauma
I wrote an open letter to my trauma anniversaries. I’ve done a lot of growing and inner work in the last year. Thankfully, I am a better and stronger person now. To my trauma anniversaries, Each month of every year, I am paralyzed by you. The anniversaries have stacked up quite a bit over the last thirty years. Every few weeks, a new anniversary creeps from its hiding place in my mind, down my central nervous system, and has life breathed into it again. Many times, I don’t know what it is that has me anxious, angry, and depressed until I look at a calendar. When I put two and two ...
6 Blogs & Podcasts that helped me get back on track
When my life took an extremely painful and unexpected detour, I went looking for answers and advice on how to know if I should move on, how to stop the pain, and how to create a life that made me happy. I needed to learn the qualities of a truly healthy relationship. New habits needed to be instilled while old ones needed to be broken. I wanted to heal in a real way, not just the “Look at me, I’m doing better now” fake facade that most people post on social media. Most importantly, I wanted to make permanent positive changes. I understand most that staying the same ...
Navigating Friendship with Women
Every now and then a girl comes along as says the dreaded phrase: “I don’t hang out with girls, they’re too much drama.” People scream bloody murder. The streets run red with blood. Baby angels cry. The reactions to such a simple sentence is never small. Some girls nod emphatically. Others smile politely but make a mental note to never hang out again. Like any other millennial, I consulted Google about it. The results were not good for “girls without girl friends”. A vast majority of them said to steer clear of those girls because they are the drama. There’s a reason no one is friends with ...
