Which relationship is the most important relationship in your life? If you answered with your significant other or parents and siblings or best friend... not quite. Yes, those are all important relationships, but who is most important? You! I've struggled with that concept for years. Learning about codependency and the fact that I've been plagued with it my entire life was more than eye-opening. Understanding that I have issues with codependency unlocked an opportunity to make some major changes. What is codependency? It's marked by: low self-esteempeople-pleasingpoor ...
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Understanding and ending my toxic cycle
I had a breakthrough in therapy this week! I reached a point of understanding what my toxic cycle is! Now that I have the information, I am ending my toxic cycle this year. When I was in high school, the only thing that motivated me was getting away from my parents. It was literally the only thing that got me out of bed in the morning. It motivated me to become Student Council President of my high school, chase high grades, and get involved in after school activities and sports. Any second I could spend away from home was a second of relief. My only goal was to get the hell away ...
6 Blogs & Podcasts that helped me get back on track
When my life took an extremely painful and unexpected detour, I went looking for answers and advice on how to know if I should move on, how to stop the pain, and how to create a life that made me happy. I needed to learn the qualities of a truly healthy relationship. New habits needed to be instilled while old ones needed to be broken. I wanted to heal in a real way, not just the “Look at me, I’m doing better now” fake facade that most people post on social media. Most importantly, I wanted to make permanent positive changes. I understand most that staying the same ...
Grow Where You Are Planted
It’s hard to describe the pain of a broken engagement. It’s harder than losing a boyfriend or girlfriend. When you get engaged to someone, you have thought critically and at length about sharing your life with another person. You become less worried about the future because you understand that your partner will be there. Questions about life start having answers. You understand that your relationship will not always be roses, but your partner is worth the thorns. Anxieties quiet, and fears dissipate. Everything about life does not make sense still, but your partner gives you clarity. I was ...
Big Chop
Last May, I had to cut off all of my hair. I had heat damage. The entire front of my head was frazzled, seared, fried... whatever you want to call it. It was bad. I had gotten a sew-in in Florida before moving to Guam. I argued with the hairstylist for a while, because I didn't want leave out. I told her Guam was way more humid than Florida and I didn't want to flat iron my hair every day. My hair shrinks up if there's a whisper of water 200 miles away. The stylist talked me out of what I already knew, and did the leave out. Fast forward to removing the weave a month or so later... you ...
Challenge 3
I would like to work out more, but I hate going to gyms. Like, loathe it entirely. I worry about germs. I worry about doing exercises wrong. I get self-conscious. Most of all, I feel like craaaaaap after a workout. The whole endorphin thing is a myth to me. It's because I'm so worked up the whole time I'm in the gym. For some people, exercise is a haven. For me, it's pure torture. More often than not I either feel like I'm gonna throw after working out or actually throw up. Yeah, it's real fun. Last month I decided, what the hell, new year new me... in July. Yep! No time is better ...
