It’s been exactly a year since I began my healing journey. It's been a long ride with lots of twists, turns, and growth, and guess what? I am excited to introduce you to the final pages of the Traumatic Breakup chapter of my story! I can write this from a place of forgiveness and acceptance because I was able to truly move on. The traumatic aspect of the breakup At the end of our relationship, I blamed myself. I have an incredibly big heart, and I gave every ounce of love, respect, and kindness I had to my ex. If you’d read my journals through those three years, even if I was mad at him, ...
moving on
Take Pride in Your Accomplishments
I don’t know how many times I’ve been told to be humble in my life. Bragging wasn’t a good thing to do, and I wasn’t supposed to make others feel bad about what they couldn’t do.I’m taking this opportunity to say, “Screw that!” Be proud of yourself and tell yourself how awesome you are. Gas yourself up! Say this daily: I am proud of myself today, yesterday, and every day behind and ahead. Why I'm proud I’m proud of myself for getting back up after giving up. I’m proud of myself for rising up after sinking lower than I ever had. I take pride in the fact that after years of choosing ...
It’s been a year since my trauma
I wrote an open letter to my trauma anniversaries. I’ve done a lot of growing and inner work in the last year. Thankfully, I am a better and stronger person now. To my trauma anniversaries, Each month of every year, I am paralyzed by you. The anniversaries have stacked up quite a bit over the last thirty years. Every few weeks, a new anniversary creeps from its hiding place in my mind, down my central nervous system, and has life breathed into it again. Many times, I don’t know what it is that has me anxious, angry, and depressed until I look at a calendar. When I put two and two ...
How I Found Empowerment Through Gratitude
Happy Sunday! Wow, we’re already more than halfway through September. I took a mental health break and got some sunshine and rest. That also resulted in a gnarly jellyfish sting. I’ve never had one before, and I can’t say that I enjoy it. My affirmation from the last post, I choose myself, even if others refuse to, was very impactful. I needed to do some serious self-care after reaching the acceptance portion of my broken engagement. I thought I had reached it before, but the final stage meant actively choosing myself by standing up for myself. The strength to leave the past where it was ...
My Step-by-Step Guide to Letting Go
One of the most difficult parts of dealing with a broken heart is letting go. When we start dating someone, we attach to them with our minds, bodies, and souls. Together, a couple creates memories, inside jokes, and make promises to each other. They build a little shelter-world together that protects from the outside world. Sharing space together and living together makes the bond and attachment even stronger with each passing day. But disagreements, conflict, and betrayal cause breakups. Sometimes it’s nothing but paths heading separate directions that causes a split. When a couple goes ...
Moving On
warning: excessive use of the word "bruh" in this post. you've been warned. I did the most unthinkable and unimaginable thing in the world. The part of my healing journey that began last November... might actually be complete. Forgive my use of slang but... BRUH. BRUH. I am shocked. The light at the end of the tunnel was not a train! This morning, I thought about the future first as I woke up. I am giddy and excited because I got signed up for a Victim Advocacy Certification Course yesterday. After I complete that, I'm getting a certification in trauma counseling. I looked at all the ...
