Pardon my dust, I hope there’s not too much confusion. A lot happened around here after my last post! My website is undergoing a transformation at the moment, so I apologize ahead of time for broken links and general disarray. I’m still learning how to navigate the new layout, so many many apologies! My beloved Noire Memoir has become Goddess In Training Coaching! Why is all of this happening? So I that I can help other women avoid everything that I went through and more. This is the first time I'll go into more detail about that breakup. I avoided going into too much depth before, ...
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Getting The Hang of Being Happy
This may seem like an odd subject, but it’s truly something I had to work on this past year. I was not accustomed to being happy. And not just any kind of happiness, but the happiness that comes from fulfilment from within. I didn’t know that was a thing. As you know, I’ve battled several mental illnesses over the years, and it’s felt exactly like that. Like there was a war that I had no say in going on inside my mind and body for years. When I looked at happy people, I assumed they were like me. Just smiling to hide the immense pain they felt on a nearly 24-hour constant loop. Even ...
Coping with Holiday Despair
As soon as Halloween jack-o-lanterns and Freddy Kreuger costumes reappear and fade away, retail stores whip out giant inflatable Santas, orange, brown, and red turkey decorations, and cornucopias. Kids are making those hand-drawn turkeys in school and wearing construction paper pilgrim hats. The leaves are gone, and snow might be on the ground (except in most of the South). For most, these sights bring a small rush of, “Yes! It’s the holidays!!!” For others, myself and millions of retail workers included, it’s a feeling of dread. “Crap, it’s the holidays.” The time that’s supposed to be ...
Finding Closure: What I Learned From Loving an Avoidant Man
It’s been exactly a year since I began my healing journey. It's been a long ride with lots of twists, turns, and growth, and guess what? I am excited to introduce you to the final pages of the Traumatic Breakup chapter of my story! I can write this from a place of forgiveness and acceptance because I was able to truly move on. The traumatic aspect of the breakup At the end of our relationship, I blamed myself. I have an incredibly big heart, and I gave every ounce of love, respect, and kindness I had to my ex. If you’d read my journals through those three years, even if I was mad at him, ...
Take Pride in Your Accomplishments
I don’t know how many times I’ve been told to be humble in my life. Bragging wasn’t a good thing to do, and I wasn’t supposed to make others feel bad about what they couldn’t do.I’m taking this opportunity to say, “Screw that!” Be proud of yourself and tell yourself how awesome you are. Gas yourself up! Say this daily: I am proud of myself today, yesterday, and every day behind and ahead. Why I'm proud I’m proud of myself for getting back up after giving up. I’m proud of myself for rising up after sinking lower than I ever had. I take pride in the fact that after years of choosing ...
How I Came to Appreciate My Blessings in Disguise
Last year, I was considerably hurt, confused, and depressed when my ex-fiancé decided to dump me without warning. I couldn’t figure out what went wrong. In my eyes, our relationship was great. I was doing everything I could do have a solid and healthy relationship, but life did what it normally does. It threw a curve ball and had me on a plane 4 days later to Orlando, leaving the house I made into a home, most of my clothes and shoes, books, and everything important to me. I couldn’t understand it. If I had done nothing wrong, why was I ushered out of a happy life that I had worked so hard ...
