Pardon my dust, I hope there’s not too much confusion. A lot happened around here after my last post! My website is undergoing a transformation at the moment, so I apologize ahead of time for broken links and general disarray. I’m still learning how to navigate the new layout, so many many apologies! My beloved Noire Memoir has become Goddess In Training Coaching! Why is all of this happening? So I that I can help other women avoid everything that I went through and more. This is the first time I'll go into more detail about that breakup. I avoided going into too much depth before, ...
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A Beautiful Truth: Becoming Grateful for my Pain
It’s another beautiful Sunday! We survived the election, and life is good! It’s almost time for the holidays, which may or may not be your jam. If they’re not, check out my previous post for some tips on getting through the holiday blues. Gratitude for this week This week I was proud of myself because… I asked for help. My blog, plus several other activities and projects were getting to be more than I could chew. My coach/mentor asked what I needed help with the most. Instead of saying, “It’s okay, I got it,” like I usually would, I responded, “Time!” She helped me learn some new ...
Goodbye to Negativity
Dear Negative Sense of Self, I keep coming back to you. Year after year, time after time. When I've let you go, just as quickly, I've come running back. You are my normal. You are reliable, infallible, and indefatigable. You are me, and I am you. I need you. I can't understand the world without you. And yet, someone has changed. It's me. I have changed. Your truth has become lies in my ears.Your embrace has become rejected by my heart.Your sincerity has become hollow in my life. I'm leaving you behind, just as you promised that others would leave me. You told me that I was ...
I am taking a hiatus from blogging.
"The world tests those who are going to contribute the greatest gifts." A kind stranger on the internet said this to me when my whole world was imploding this past week. The words touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes. I am taking a hiatus from blogging, because well... I have been going through it this week. It's just been a rough few days. Actually I don’t want to sugarcoat it. It's been a rough couple of months. The most recent problem solved itself with the help of many kind strangers reaching out, and a therapist that was determined to help me reduce my stress level. Even ...
What do I have in common with a depressed horse?
My struggle with borderline personality disorder has mostly been under the surface. Usually when people hear "Borderline Personality Disorder", they react like someone peed in their cereal. Disgust or anger that crosses their faces as they begin to talk about a particular ex or the movie Gone Girl or Girl, Interrupted. Things I've heard about borderlines? "Those girls are absolutely insane.""They're the worst people on the planet.""They are crazy, but they're the best in bed.""Extreme Daddy issues.""Oh, you mean strippers?""If you don't want to get stabbed or murdered, don't ...
Healing Journey – Part 2
I’m back from the Bahamas! I am refreshed, rejuvenated, and reinvigorated. My travel post about my Bahamian adventures goes up Wednesday this week. On to the healing! Armed with a pen, journal, and a self-help book, I worked on myself. I prioritized moments that were purely for me and my well-being. I took advice from one of the greatest Disney movies ever made. I let go of everything. Past hurts, traumas, feeling used, confusion and anger at being lied to for so long, and not getting what I know I earned. I let it go. During my trip, I analyzed and began to understand why I’ve always ...